Learning like dads

How did you feel quarantined? Have you questioned your role as a father or mother? Here, some clues about what to do in this time.

As human beings this situation we are going through can become disordered and in turn can overwhelm us emotionally. This is because we are experiencing a change in the way we knew life. Now we have to distribute the day at work from home, accompany our daughters in their virtual classes, help them do schoolwork, as well as, cook, clean, go out shopping, share with family, among other things.

Each family is different and has a different dynamic. It is clear that it is an abrupt change that has taken us all by surprise and naturally, it generates many doubts, such as:

Are we going to be doing well as a family?

How is mom acting assertively in the face of the difficult situations tha
t come before us in the day to day? I
how am I relating to them?

Because of all these concerns that arise to us as parents, we want to provide them with certain tools that can help us cope with this adversity.

1. Self-regulation: How do I manage to structure my days?

  • Establish a work and home routine where all family members engage and alternate activities.
  • It has been scientifically proven that it is more beneficial to do the most important thing during the early hours of the day, having slept enough as the brain during the morning achieves a higher level of attention and concentration.
  • Healthy habits, including good eating and exercise.

2. Introspection: As an adult caregiver, are you thinking about yourself? What are you doing to take care of yourself?

  • Find a moment of the day when you can be alone and silent, that allows you to reflect and meditate, using a breathing, slow and leisurely that will help you connect with your interior.
  • Listen to your body, connect with what you need, for example; If you want to cry, you can do it. It's a tough time.
  • Express your emotions with someone you trust. If you find it hard to talk about, try writing it down to avoid retaining this feeling for so long causes more discomfort and pain.

3. Optimism: How do we do it?

  • Baths of light, sun and nature. It has been scientifically proven that observing nature directly or through an image, increases levels of Serotonin (happiness hormone) and decreases cortisol (stress hormone).
  • Think positive. Don't anticipate the future, don't think about the past, we just have control of the present.
  • Hope and faith also help nurture this attitude. Offer your day with a spiritual intention.

4. Creativity: How do we develop it?

  • Pick up hobbies, try new things, invent games or explore according to your curiosity.
  • Keep your sense of humor as it takes you away from discomfort, and allows you to see situations from a different perspective.
  • Take the laughter seriously.

5. Support networks: What are your networks?

  • Take care of ties with people close to you. Especially with your family and friends.
  • Try to talk to other dads who are going through the same thing, so you feel accompanied, at this difficult time.

The idea of presenting these tools is to make us aware that when we apply them we will go through a process of change, where we are likely to make mistakes.

However, we must be calm as these errors are part of the learning process, which will strengthen us as a family to face difficult situations in the future.

Psychopedagogical Department
Colegio Villa Caritas

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